“Forgiving each other, just as…God forgave you.” Eph 4:32 NIV
The power of forgiveness is an awesome thing. No relationship can survive without it, much less thrive. Whatever the issue, forgiveness sets both sides free, takes a weapon out of Satan’s hands, and opens the door for God to go to work in the situation. This is never more so than in your family. The truth is, it’s easier to forgive an enemy you seldom see than a loved one you have to live with every day. But you must do it. George Herbert said, “He who cannot forgive others, breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself.” Paul writes: “Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love” (Col 3:12-14 NIV). Teach your children how to forgive. If you expose them to your anger, make sure that they’re around when you show grace. Teach them how to deal with the issue, without attacking the person. Let them know that a difference of opinion can lead to a decision that makes things better for everyone, and that as a family member you can be “wrong” and still be treated right. This may mean teaching them things you were never taught. If so, learn from the mistakes of your parents and pass it on to your children. “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold” (Eph 4:26 NIV). In other words, forgive when you are hurt, and don’t take your resentments to bed.