“Let us not…judge one another anymore.” Ro 14:13
Here’s another reason people leave the church: Because of the attitude of some church members. The older boy in Christ’s parable knew how to be a son, but he didn’t know how to be a brother. If the jealousy and judgmentalism he showed toward his brother is anything to go by, it’s little wonder his brother left home in the first place. Paul writes: “Let us not therefore judge one another anymore: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way.” The Bible says, “He that loveth his brother abideth in the light, and there is [no] occasion of stumbling in him” (1Jn 2:10). Do your attitudes and actions strengthen others or cause them to stumble? Have you read about Diotrephes? John talked about him: “I wrote to the church, but Diotrephes, who loves to have the preeminence among them, does not receive us. Therefore, if I come, I will call to mind his deeds which he does, prating against us with malicious words. And not content with that, he himself does not receive the brethren, and forbids those who wish to, putting them out of the church” (3Jn 9-10 NKJV). Diotrephes was a preacher-fighter and a prima donna who wanted only one thing—control! And John denounced him as “evil,” saying, “He who does evil has not seen God” (v.11 NKJV). Only eternity will reveal how many people have been driven away from the church by critical, callous, controlling Christians. Make sure you’re not one of them!