One of the most difficult things to overcome in a relationship is broken trust. One of the most important things you can do in your marriage is protect that trust.
The Enemy would have you believe that if trust has been broken through infidelity, the marriage is over. That’s not always the case. Trust can be restored if there is genuine repentance and willingness for both parties to cleave and hold fast to their marriage covenant.
Marriage was never designed to compete with an affair. How do you fortify your marriage against infidelity and other threats?
- Forgive. Forgiveness is a key ingredient of any marriage. In any situation, always work to find a way to forgive, repair and move forward together. Don’t leave things broken.
- Declare your status. At the workplace, make it clear that you’re married. Don’t wait until someone tries to seduce you. Make it known from the start that you are married and not interested in other options.
- Praise and don’t curse. People should hear you speak highly and kindly about your spouse. Never belittle your spouse in the presence of others, especially to members of the opposite sex. When you do, you open the door to disaster.
- No secrets. There should be no secret phone calls, text messages, websites, videos or satellite channels. Secrets weaken the foundation of your marriage and erode trust.
- Avoid bad company. Stay away from people who take adultery lightly. Strengthen your marriage by maintaining friendships with couples who have been married for many years. “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed” (Prov. 13:20).
- Stay in church. Be part of a local body of believers who can encourage you through difficult times. Learn from older couples who have weathered life’s storms together.
- Guard your thoughts. Wives, I encourage you to value yourselves. Don’t look to other men to find significance. “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands” (Prov. 14:1). Husbands, the same is true for you. Don’t go looking for praise and affirmation outside your home. Guard your thoughts and keep them set on things above.
- Honor your vows. If you’ve fallen into sin, be quick to confess, repent and bring it before the Lord. If you cover your sin — God will uncover it. However, if you uncover it before God, He will cover it and bring restoration and healing.