Don’t buy into the lies about marriage. One of the lies the enemy uses to sabotage your marriage is that you should separate until you can work through difficult times. Don’t be deceived. Separation serves to hinder, not to heal. Your marriage is strengthened when you weather adversity together.

Another lie? That it’s OK to leave your spouse if you were married outside of God’s will. It doesn’t matter what brought you together, if you’re both born again and serving the Lord, your marriage is ordained and blessed by God. Scripture says, “What God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matt. 19:6). You can’t go back and erase the past. You’re together now, and God wants you to stay that way.

But what if you’re saved and your spouse isn’t? I’ve had women tell me, “Pastor, my husband just won’t come to church with me, and he gets mad when I go. We’re just fussing and fighting all the time. So, I think God just wants me to leave him.” No. The Bible says, “For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband” (1 Cor. 7:14).

We have a church member who was my secretary for many, many years. Her husband refused to attend church with her because Sunday was his “golf and beer-drinking day.” On top of that, their teenage son refused to go too and used dad as his excuse. In one service, she felt the Lord say, “Just love the man. Just keep praying for him and love him.” So she followed 1 Peter 3:1, “that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives.”

In time, the husband and the son started attending church and got saved. That son eventually served as our children’s pastor and now serves as our executive pastor at Free Chapel.

Is your relationship heading in the direction of one of these lies? Start believing what His Word promises: “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household” (Acts 16:31). Keep serving the Lord, keep loving your spouse and keep believing the Truth.