“My strength is made perfect in weakness.” 2Co 12:9 NKJV
If you find that you are overly controlling, try doing these three things: (1) Rather than dreading your helplessness, embrace it as a place of strength. It positions you to experience God’s power. “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Let go, and let God! (2) Be quick to express your helplessness to God. King Jehoshaphat realized that his forces were no match for three invading armies. So he prayed: “O our God …we have no power against this great multitude that is coming against us; nor do we know what to do, but our eyes are upon You” (2Ch 20:12 NKJV). How does his story end? Miraculously! The invading armies destroyed each other and Jehoshaphat’s army didn’t have to fight at all. Your biggest miracles will happen when you feel the least able, and trust God to intervene. (3) Meditate on Scriptures that speak about the sovereignty of God and the futility of trying to control life. “Make your motions and cast your votes, but God has the final say” (Pr 16:33 TM). “We humans keep brainstorming options and plans, but God’s purpose prevails” (Pr 19:21 TM). “He does as he pleases among the angels of heaven and among the people of the earth. No one can stop him or say to him, ’What do you mean by doing these things?’” (Da 4:35 NLT). “For he chose us in advance, and he makes everything work out according to his plan” (Eph 1:11 NLT). Relax and start trusting God—He knows what He’s doing and He has your best interests at heart.