“When Peter had come to Antioch, I withstood him to his face.” Gal 2:11 NKJV When Peter showed partiality to Jews over Gentiles, Paul confronted him over it! Why? To keep unity in the church. Sometimes you’ve no option but to confront someone. The question is, “How?” None of us are born with the innate ability to do this; it’s a skill only learned through practice and patience. And the reason we’re not good at it, is because we avoid it like the plague. As a result, our relationships suffer and our problems don’t get resolved. The first step in preparing for a confrontation is to establish the right purpose for putting the issue on the table. The focus should be on achieving a better relationship. This can either involve getting someone to stop doing something, or start doing something. At no time should your goal be to tell someone off, or get something off your chest, or lay a guilt trip on them. So it’s important that you first confront yourself. Be honest about why you’ve decided to confront the issue. Do you have an ulterior motive such as resentment or wounded pride, or do you want to see a genuine change in behavior? You need to ask yourself, “When this confrontation is over, what behavior do I want to see the offender change?” Remember, in effective confrontation you are looking for a desired outcome and a win-win for both sides. “A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city” (Pr 18:19). If a person knows you truly care about them and are seeking to glorify God in the situation, you’re more apt to get the response you seek.