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Daily Devotions

Don’t Be a Blame Thrower (2)

August 11, 2018

“Take responsibility for…your own life.”   Gal 6:5 MSG

 

Sally managed a small marketing company, and when problems arose she automatically looked for a scapegoat. At sales meetings she berated and criticized her co-workers, choosing to call her tirades “pep talks.” Her associates began to resign in droves, and when company revenues declined Sally blamed it on the slow economy, inefficient staff, and bad working conditions. Finally her boss had enough and fired her. Blame-shifting was how Sally survived. It never occurred to her that she may have contributed to the problem, in even a small way. Blaming others undermines your ability to “take responsibility for…your own life.” One expert writes: “Instead of becoming stronger you become weaker. People think if they admit to being part of the problem it means they’ve failed in some way. In reality the opposite is true. It takes strength to concede that everyoneinvolved played a part. Another side effect of blame throwing is self-righteousness. In your mind you become unassailable, different, and better than others. You think you’re the strong one and other people are flawed. Nothing could be further from the truth; the Bible says, ‘The bigger the ego, the harder the fall” (Pr 16:18 MSG). When you blame others you lose your ability to see what’s really going on. And you’re shocked when you lose a relationship or a job because you never saw it coming…When you stop blaming others you develop compassion. You realize mistakes are natural and inevitable—and they’re just mistakes. They can be corrected. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you or other people.” So: “Take responsibility for…your own life.”

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account_circle Ginny South

I love this, don't be a blamethrower, seriously, been there and done just that. What I have learned in my spiritual growth as I matured it started to come naturally that I need to take responsibility for myself and be responsible for me and my actions which in turn have consequences. Today when I see that finger getting ready to shoot some nonsense of someones blame game, let them finish, then walk over to them and turn their finger around so it points at them and simply say, once I learned to do that my life was so sweet and much simpler🌞💗 Thanks

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