Yesterday we talked about spiritual and character compatibility. Today we focus on areas of communication and the ways we respond to one another. Here are three additional areas of compatibility to consider for a successful marriage:
1. Emotional compatibility. When you date someone, take the time to learn the person’s story. Ask about their family and their history. How does their past affect their emotional outlook on life? Talk through every incidence. Find out how they handle difficult situations. Even when you have been married for 50 years this is still a good idea. Some issues are only revealed over time. And as you go through the challenges of life know that together you can always take it to the Lord and rest assured He will work everything together for your good. Never forget He is the biggest advocate for you and your marriage.
2. Communication compatibility. Keep in mind what Scripture says about communication in Proverbs 15:1, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” According to Proverbs 18:13, “He who answers a matter before he hears it, It is folly and shame to him.” Listen to the other person. Learn how to talk about things with each other. Communication is critical to a successful marriage. It is a skill worth the effort.
3. Mutual physical and sexual attraction. Marriage is not just about spiritual compatibility. There must be a physical attraction. It was how God intended marriage to work. Think about it … Jacob was so physically attracted to Rachel that he worked seven years to marry her and counted it as one day, “So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed only a few days to him because of the love he had for her” (Genesis 29:20). Physical chemistry is important!
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